Wednesday, June 22, 2011

misc updates

Dan washed my camera. Yes, that's right. He turned the dryer on and heard the tell-tale thumping of something in the dryer that was NOT a piece of clothing. He said "damn, I hope that wan't my phone!" Well, lucky for him it wasn't, but it was indeed my camera. I loved my little camera, so compact, so easy to use. Luckily, we have a back-up, but unfortunately don't have the cable to connect it to the computer for downloading, so looks like I'm getting a new camera! Until then, no pics:(

Sophie's first day at her music class went as well as it could. She was the youngest, and the only one not talking, but I think she really did enjoy the socialization. We went back yesterday, and I left her after about 15 minutes. I waited until she was really INTO something and slowly walked out. It was hard, and I only just moved to the porch of this lady's house. But, Sophie did great. They came out at the hour mark for a break, and I took that opportunity to take her home. Next time, we'll try for 1.5 hours. She's not really going to get much out of the class, lol, but I feel good that she is around other little people her age. They do alot of clapping, general rythm stuff, and sing some kid songs:)

ALSO, and this is BIG news...we signed her up for daycare. Starting mid-August she'll be going two days a week to an in-home daycare. Dan REALLY fought me on it, and I think that the root of it was that he thought I was saying he isn't good enough to watch her. I had to explain to him that 1) this is about her and NOT him, and she's at the point where she needs to socialize, learn to share, see the world outside of our condo, and that 2) when these babies come he is going to be so grateful when I take Sophie with me in the morning.

I have mixed feelings about it. I'm stuck on the fact that I am changing her world to make room for these babies. I know it's not all about that, but it makes me feel bad. I KNOW she needs to get out into the world. My parents were total "live in a bubble" type of people when it came to me. I will NOT be like that with Sophie, nor do I want to. My dad would probably fall over dead if he knew that one of the boys in her music class is African American, and another one is mulatto. Oh the horror, lol!

I also hate that we'll be sending her to daycare when I am home on maternity leave. I feel like she should be home with us then, but I know consistency is important, and I know she'll be getting a lot more (and quality) attention at daycare than I'll be able to provide her with newborn twins.

But it's hard. I'm still struggling dailey with the fact that I am bringing two new little people into her world, to take away the attention and love that she is used to. Matter of fact, we're going to stop this convo right here b/c I'm ready to cry just thinking about it.

House news...it's official...we close on our house tomorrow at 3 pm!!! After the hell we've gone through to get to this point, I just hope it works out. AND, we have tenant signatures on our leasing agreement so that is offical too!!!

Thursday, June 16, 2011

The chaos that is buying/selling (renting) a house...

For those following along in our home search/home buy/home sell drama, I finally feel fairly confident in updating what is going on. I think I'm past the stage where I feel I might "jinx" something. Here is the run-down.
1) Our condo went on the market in mid January.
2) Despite MANY private showings, we didn't get ONE offer.
3) Early February, we found a house in a cute little neighborhood, in the school district in which Dan grew up (this was his requirement). It's a fairly expensive area, so for us to find something that we liked/could afford, was a big deal.
4) We put in an offer, they countered, we played the house buying game, and agreed on a price.
5) Then came the financing snafu, which was BEYOND difficult because we hadn't sold our condo. I will save all the dirty details of that, but we finally made it work. ***How we were going to pay two mortgages for an extended period of time, I didn't know, but I was on a mission.***
6. Late February, I started hinting to Dan that we should be open to the idea of renting our condo. He was SO against it at the time, we could not even have a conversation. Seriously, he just blew up and wouldn't even entertain the idea. Because I know him so well, I waited a few weeks, brought it up again, his reaction was slightly better, but still FAR from accepting of the idea. Lather, rinse, repeat, several times.
7. I finally wore him down, lol, but did it in as rational, logical a way as a could. I gathered the facts, put them in front of him and didn't back down:) He agreed to try to rent, if we work with an agency (as opposed to putting a random ad on Craiglist).
8. We met with an agent who LOVED our condo, and Dan loved her. We had showings just a few days later.
9. Yesterday, we signed a leasing agreement for a couple that is moving in from out of state. I googled them (of course) and think it's a great thing. They are both PhD's, and the husband is also a J.D. He will be teaching at a local university this fall. The best news is that the rent they are paying will take care of ALL of our mortgage, plus our condo fees. Phew.

I just really need to start wrapping things up in pretty little packages. I'm done with not knowing what is going to happen. We close on our new house next Thursday, and move the following Monday. Gathering all of the documents for our new home loan has been one of the most stressful things for me. It's still not "tied up" yet, but it's close. The underwriters are going to give me a heart attack. My mom doesn't know "how you've been carrying two babies with all the stress you are under." Gee, thanks mom. You really know how to make a pregnant girl feel good.

Speaking of that, I saw my OB on Tues. We did a growth u/s and both babies look great. Baby girl is 1.7 pounds, and Baby boy is 1.8 pounds. Although these weights sounds REALLY close together,it's actually a 3% difference. They don't start to worry though, until the difference is about 10%. So I'm feeling good about that. My cervix was measuring 3.75 so we're good there.

Dr. is starting to lay down the law again about my taking it easy. She said in this next month (prior to next appt), she wants me to start "listening" to my body, and go hoome early if I need/take a nap/whatever. My boss is totally cool with this, but it's just not my personality. Plus, I don't want to use my leave time now. But, I will listen to her, especially after the house closing/move is over. I'll be taking several partial days off in the next few weeks to deal with that, but once July hits, I may cut down an hour a day. She also said that at my next appt, she was probably going to ask me to cut down 2-3 hours a day. I still have mixed feelings about this, if I am feeling good, but I will do what she says.

Starting to babble now...will post later about Sophie's first music class and potential daycare:)

Monday, June 13, 2011

18 months...

Yes, Sophia ACTUALLY turned 18 months on June 5...and it's now June 13...but it's the best I can do, lol. Our life is crazy right now.
Official stats:
1) 26.2 pounds (50-75th percentile)
2) I forgot her actual height (!!),but it is 25-50th percentile. She's finally perking up!
3) Head is still 75-90th percentile!

Dr. R said everything is looking good. I had to fill out a survey that shows early indicators of autism...she has none, but I knew that. Dr really questioned us about her vocab, which I knew she would, but I'm not worried. No shots, thankfully!

Unofficial stats:
1) gives kisses...when you see her tight lipped and saying "mmmmmmmmm" you know she wants a kiss. She even does this to Sierra. They are few and far between though, so you're very lucky if she picks you:)
2) The hugs just get better. Feeling her little arms squeeze so tightly around my neck is just about the best thing ever.
3) She also uses "hugs" to try to get out of something. For example, every night "jammy time" is turning into a run for Dan, begged to be picked up, and then hold on tightly to him...until I come find her and whisk her away like a bad mom, lol.
4) She also has started running and "hiding" when it's time for a diaper change.
5) Sierra gets hugs too.
6) If you are really lucky the hugs are accompanied by pats on the back, or head:)
7) 18-24 month clothes; size 4 dipes, size 5 nighttime dipes
8) not only does she squat when she poos, she has started to tap her diaper when she pees. Dr. R gave us the go ahead to try some potty training whenever we are ready.
9) Has taken a sudden liking to the fork, but still needs help in spearing whatever it is she wants to eat.
10) Incisors should be coming soon...I give it two weeks for the first one. Lots of drooling going on.
11) When she gets excited she SQUEELS. It's the best. Her focal range is up there with Mariah:)
12) SHe LOVES balls, any size, any texture. She loves them. She likes to roll them, but LOVES to kick them.
13) Bubbles are also a newish favorite of hers. We blow them in the house for her, we are bad parents!
14) When she wants to go somewhere she will either a) come to us with some combo of her shoes, our keys, my purse, or b) we'll find her at the front door with shoes in hand. Sometimes her baby doll is also waiting patiently in her stroller at the front door;)
15) When she's ready for bed, she'll a) come to me with her milk, and 3 wubbies, or b) she'll drag a pillow off of our bed into the living room.
16)I try really hard not to freak out when she falls outside. I've taught her to "brush herself off" if she does fall, which consists of standing, wiping her knees, and then rubbing her hands together to get the dirt off. Super cute:)
17) She LOVES Sierra's leash. It's annoying.
18) She smiles for the camera now:)